Suppose you’ve been following us at Passion and Presence. In that case, you might be under the assumption that our Awakened Intimacy Couple’s Retreats are specifically for people who are struggling sexually and that they’re not for you if you aren’t.
In actuality, couples who have a great sex life already still benefit enormously from our programs. Those participants typically enjoy even more fulfilling sex by attending our retreats. So, why is this? And how does “like enlightenment, only naked” tie into this?
Three Ways to Have Better Sex
First, when we are young, we learn a lot about sex without knowing what we are learning. This early emotional learning encodes as models and beliefs about sex that shape our adult bedroom behaviors. And while this learning may not create difficulties for you now, there’s probably more that you could open up to sexually, if not for some of the models you carry unknowingly.
The awakened intimacy practice turns the spotlight on our habits and patterns and invites us to look into them more deeply. Even those of us having great sex can still use our sex life as a mirror that reveals our beliefs and attitudes—our filters–that arise out of our old conditioning. Passion and Presence offers ways to transform your sex life’s operating system, so to speak, to have even more intimacy and erotic expression.
Second, there’s an excellent chance that if you have found a “magic formula” to ensure you have rewarding sex, it may become less so over time. When we do the same things with the same person repeatedly, we go on automatic. By definition, we’re not fully here for the experience, which means we’re more likely to do the same thing once more. The secret to having an exciting sex life across the lifespan has less to do with what we do in bed and more with our state of mind while we have it. Through mindful sex, we can cultivate a novelty state which enables us to discover new things each time we make love.
The third benefit of attending our retreats now is that almost all couples eventually run into some challenges simply because nothing remains the same. We all go through physical, emotional, and relational changes that ultimately affect our partnered sex. Our emphasis on working with your consciousness can enhance the sex you’re having and help you expand, even in the face of physical and genital decline. Moreover, when we have reliable tools and practices, we can grow through rather than merely “get through” these changes. Meaning, we may find that we cultivate spiritual qualities, such as compassion, wisdom, and acceptance, while opening new channels of pleasure and eroticism.
Awakened intimacy is a path of growth and transformation through the erotic portal. In other words, our retreats go beyond sex; they help couples wake up together. In “Passion and Presence: Aging, Intimacy, and Mindful Sex,” Kathryn Drury Wagner writes, “It’s like enlightenment, only… naked, a path that helps remove judgment, fear, and disconnect that can naturally arise during the aging process and after decades of coupledom.”
The path and practice of awakened intimacy help us move closer to a more open exchange with eros energy. And when we are awake to the experience, meeting the moment directly, we are more fully alive.
Let us show you how awakened intimacy can grow you both personally and erotically, and support your unfolding as a couple. You can find out more about our resources and online retreats here.
Warmly
Maci Daye
